How To Develop Social Skills As An Introvert (In 2020)

How To Develop Social Skills As An Introvert (In 2020)


Hey STEM professionals, Myke Macapinlac here
and in this video, I’m going to talk about how to develop social skills as an introvert. As a social skills coach, I’ve worked with
a lot of introverted men in the past. Stick around until the very end because I’m
about to give you the exact same advice that I give to my clients and they’ve seen great
results with. If you’re new to the channel, make sure you
subscribe and hit the bell to be notified when I post a new video every single week. From my experience, I noticed that most introverted
men who struggle socially lack awareness and experience when it comes to meeting people. It’s not like you learn this stuff in school
or at home, right? If you want to learn how to develop social
skill as an introvert, here are my best tips. Let’s get into it. Tip #1 Leverage your strengths Introverts tend to do better in one-on-one
situations. If that’s you, make sure you choose social
activities that are more conducive for that. That’s why where you go to interact with people
makes a huge difference. For example, let’s say it’s a Friday night. Instead of going to a busy night club, you
might want to go to a lounge with a laid back vibe to have more intellectual conversations.You
can’t be good at everything so make sure you set yourself up to succeed socially by
leveraging your strengths. Work with what you have instead of trying
to be someone you’re not. Tip #2 Avoid ruminating about the past One of the biggest reasons why most guys struggle
socially is because they beat themselves up unnecessarily. They have a bad habit of ruminating about
past failures and they replay negative experiences in their heads over and over again. If this sounds like you, I want to remind
you that nobody’s perfect and we all have flaws. The fastest way that I know to improve the
way you feel is to come up with things that you like about yourself. Remember, whatever you focus on expands so
be mindful of what you put your attention to because you’re going to get more of it. Tip #3 Take your appearance seriously Let me ask you a question. Would you want to talk to someone with their
arms crossed and has a frown on their face? I didn’t think so. Remember, the majority of your communication
is non-verbal. It’s not just what you say but how you say
it matters to. If you want to portray yourself as an engaging
conversationalist, make sure you pay attention to your body language. What you’ll want to do is to maintain proper
eye contact, smile, keep your feet shoulder width apart, stand up straight and avoid touching
your face. When you do these things, you’ll come across
open and friendly which makes whoever you talk to feel comfortable and at ease. Tip #4 Know what you want to say If you’re like most of my social skills coaching
clients, you’re probably not a naturally talkative person. If that’s you then it’s definitely a good
idea to prepare what you want to talk about in advance. When people meet each other for the first
time, most of them usually make small talk about what they do for work and what they
do for fun. Am I right? Take advantage of that fact and come up with
some interesting ways to answer some of the most commonly asked questions that you get
regarding your career and your hobbies. Add more details to your stories and volunteer
information about yourself instead of just giving short responses. The more you share, the easier it will be
for people to maintain a conversation with you since they have more to work with. Tip #5 Find social hobbies that you enjoy Remember, mutual interest is the foundation
of every great relationship. Isn’t it so much easier to hang out with someone
who enjoys the same things as you? That’s why you should focus on meeting people
who’s values align with yours. The best way to do this is to add a social
component to your passions, hobbies and interests. For example, instead of reading a book at
home, go to a trendy coffee shop. Join a fitness class instead of working out
by yourself. If you want to meet creative people, sign
up for writing or photography classes. Do you see how that works? If you’re an introvert, you don’t need to
go to loud bars and clubs to meet people like extroverts do. Play to your strengths and be more intentional
about your approach to making friends. Tip #6 Don’t take rejection personally Here’s the thing: Rejection is actually not about you. As a matter of fact, it’s selfish to think
that way. The reason why you can’t take rejection
personally is because you have no idea what people are going through when you interact
with them. Maybe their boss yelled at them at work. Maybe they failed an exam. Or maybe they’re just having a bad day. Who knows? You can’t possibly know what’s going on
in peoples’ heads so just focus on what you can do and let go of the rest. Tip #7 Focus on the process From my experience as a social skills coach,
a lot of guys who get discouraged easily are too focused on the outcome that they want
to achieve. While it’s important to know what you want,
you can’t obsess about it too much. Focus on the process instead. Small actions taken consistently add up to
something big eventually. When you show up and do the work that you
need to do, reaching your goals become inevitable. There you have it. I just shared with you my best tips on how
to develop social skills as an introvert. To sum things up, remember to leverage your
strengths, avoid ruminating about the past, take your appearance seriously, know what
you want to say, find social hobbies you enjoy, don’t take rejection personally and focus
on the process. If you’re a shy guy who’s technically skilled
and you want to know how to approach and talk to anybody, remember to download your free
social confidence cheat sheet by clicking the link in the description below. If you’re you’re tired of struggling socially
and you want to learn more about our social skills coaching program, book your free consultation
today and let’s connect. The link is in the description below as well. If you like this video, go ahead and hit the
like button, subscribe and share it with someone who you know could benefit from it. And now, let’s turn it to you. Which one of these tips are you going to implement
first? Leave me a comment below and let me know. Alright, that’s it for me for now and I’ll
see you in the next video.

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